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It's noone's business but you and your husbands'. What if you don't want kids, or what if you CAN'T have kids? I used to hear this crap ALL the time. When I found out I was expecting, I decided to tell everyone the sooner the better. What if something happens and you don't make it to the 3rd month was a thought, which IS what happened, but I thought, God forbid that were to happen, but at least people would back the hell u pand stop asking. Well, I had a devestating MC and regretted that I told anyone. They did stop asking about when ew would have kids, but even before all this I would tell them, "Well, you know, not everyone can have kids." People should not ask this question, as they don't know squat about a person's health history and even if they did, it's a hands off topic.

At times I would laugh and say"Wow, sounds like you're anxious for one yourself." When I knew I had PCOS, I thought I'd have trouble conceiving, so I would tell people, "no I'm not ready for kids now, I'm happy just how we are. Why ruin your life?" I would say this as a defense mechanism. People that have kids and keep asking you act like you're life is crap until you have kids. Deep dowmn we wanted a baby so bad, so when I would tell them kids ruin your fun life, they would just shut up. It's so hard to want something so bad and you don't want to put yourself on a pity party train for all, so you tend to deal with it inside. So, my point is, people need to back off and not ask. If they do, throw it right back at them.